Understanding the principle of everything.

Our understanding of anything is built through constant reasoning of things we encountered. We never thought about taking up a certain job for a living, but when situations hit the fan, it suddenly became a sensible decision. Our ability to make sense of anything is what makes us human. Even for really bad things we excused ourselves from when we gave them time, it could become fairly acceptable.

For centuries, people have spent countless resources to try to understand these kinds of processes. Philosophers and theorists have all come with their own version of 'thinking' to separate good things from bad, to understand moralities and immoralities, to perceive realities and to learn perpetually. What hits me hard when thinking about this, is sometimes we stop ourselves on the wrong step of the whole process. We came too early with conclusions, denying facts and information worthy of analysis.

Our understanding of right or wrong should be firm enough to keep ourselves from stumbling, and flexible enough to understand others. Does it sound like applying a double standard? Maybe. When we try to approach it from a different angle, we'll find ourselves some steps wiser. No one would like to apply a double standard, of course, it's not advisable. But, awareness not to force our standard on others is another trait to learn, right?

We understand things by dissecting them into separate sections, making sense of them individually, and then reconstruct them completely into one while we analyze the connections between each section. The whole thing might be the same, but when it comes to dissecting reconstructing, it may differ one from another.

For example, we all want to be loved, and we all have our own love languages (Google and test yourself). When it comes to our relationship with others, it might not come out simply the way we expected. People around us would need to understand ourselves fully to know how to treat us right. If we're treated wrongly, it doesn't always mean that people want to harm us in any way, maybe they just don't understand us well enough.

What we need to do, instead of rushing into the conclusion, is to try to analyze the situations better. Keeping a positive mind may help, but the most important is to try to extract what motivated people in doing things. We may think 'good' as A, which contains combinations of A1, A2, A3, and so on. Others may also understand A as their target, but the combinations may be different. If we try to judge only from the combinations, without putting the motivation in check, we are senseless and downright unwise.

There are motivations and there are principles. Ideally, our deeds, motivation, and principle are in line. Deeds are relative, so are motivations, but principles are firm. There are some key takeaways I would like you to understand here:

1. Hold yourself from anger. Try to listen to what others have to say when the combinations they perform don't go exactly as you've planned. You're not all-knowing, so are others.
2. Explain things backwardly. Instead of laying down instructions, try to build awareness of the Principle. That way, your explanations would not sound like orders.

Hope this helps.